As a Supporter,

What challenges do you face?

Your friend or loved one is experiencing an emotional storm at sea and only seems to see you through mist and fog. They drift rudderless in rough waters, exposed to strong winds. You feel as if you’re on the shore, watching, helpless as well. You want to support them, to help them as best as you possibly can. But you don’t know how.

You notice they’re exhausted and you don’t know how to handle it. Be reassured-there is nothing “wrong” with your friend. A life crisis is a situation that doesn’t fall into a category of right or wrong. It can be a dramatic time for anyone – we want to prevent it from becoming traumatic. 

We always want to tell our suffering friends that “Opportunities are everywhere” – but is this just a phrase?

Make this phrase a reality … make supporting someone your opportunity.

Helping is like pulling the boat ashore. I can help you more confidently explore this unknown world.

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What can I do?

Giving your friend a safe place to talk is one of the best measures. Concentrate entirely on listening – they need a place where they can open up, unfold and tell their story without recrimination.  

What should I focus on with my friend?

Look back on and talk frequently of your friend’s strengths and successes. Remind them of their strengths in good times, what they’ve created for themselves and what they have already overcome. 

Are there possible pitfalls?

Helping a friend through crisis is a commitment of time and energy. It also requires that you listen selflessly and that you keep silent when you would rather rush in with every solution, instead. 

 

What can I do when…?

My friend doesn’t take the information or advice I provide? Don’t be disappointed! Your friend is always finally responsible for the decisions for his or her life. Don’t throw your hands up and walk away – as they progress through the phases, they will turn toward healthy solutions. 

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Client Testimonials

“I originally adopted 6 month old twins. I am grateful to have Wolfgang Spangenberger by my side as a counselor in my happiness, but also in the challenges I often face. Humanly, as well as professionally, he has helped me to look at the behavior of my twins, as well as my behavior, from a different perspective.”
AlexandriaNurse
"If someone asks me about a person who combines extraordinary intelligence with an astonishing number of the most diverse talents and who by means of considerable perseverance and innovative power, sometimes makes boundaries seem relative; for whom challenges seem easy and uncouth things look elegant – I inevitably think of my old companion and friend Wolfgang."
Peter
"Wolfgang Spangenberger saved my life several times! With his expertise and dedication he brought me through serious challenges in my life. In Bermuda he performed multiple surgeries for a life threatening condition as a one man team. He denied himself days off because ‘if something should happen’ he was available for me.”
Eleanor
“I’m so grateful that I came across Dr. Spangenberger’s materials, especially his workbook and book, ‘When the Helpers Need Help.’ I’m personally supporting someone in a life crisis and having this material is making a difference in my family. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.”
MaryPhotographer
“It has been worthwhile working with Dr. Wolfgang. I have enjoyed discussing, confirming or questioning the contents of his book and program from the perspective of my pastoral and counseling work. He inspires and gives reason to see the well-being of the soul without resorting directly to medications.”
Ralf
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