If you refuse to apply “recipes” of solutions or advice for a better life, you do nothing but polish a dented and scratched car. You may shine wonderfully afterwards, but you will still be dented and scratched.
If you want to change something, you must get the dents out. In our case, the dent removal is an individual and private matter and can only be done on site, locally, and with you. You will not find a general solution here – there IS no general solution. I, for one, don’t know where your dents and scratches are; I only know that you have them.
You can’t just hand your life over to the garage, get it repaired, and then go on as if nothing had happened. You must first realize that you have scratches and dents.
Then, you must repair and remove your scratches and dents yourself. Of course, you can still move with the dents, just as your car can. The only question is whether you can still feel joy and happiness with those dents.
Figuratively speaking, most dents are in the front right and most scratches are on the driver’s door. You will decide whether you want to deal with just one scratch or all the dents. Once you have corrected the dents, you can still decide if you want to polish your paint afterwards.
Now my comparison with the car repair shop has reached its limits! Thank God we are not cars.